My Father’s Second Wedding

After three years and two fiancés, my father is ready to get married for the second time.

It’s hard to believe that it’s been that long, but my mom passed away in February 2011. They say that time heals all wounds. As cheesy as it sounds, it’s true…but only if you allow it.

I say that because my dad waited a few months before jumping into a relationship to stop himself from being lonely every night. I never saw the connection, but he claimed that he loved her and that they were happy. For whatever reason, she never really fully connected with the rest of the family but we just wanted to see my dad happy…so we didn’t say anything and did our best to be nice.

Just over a year ago, my dad came back from Florida a single man…having made the decision that this woman wasn’t right for him. As Sunshine and I both breathed a sigh of relief, I wondered if he was really ready to move on with his life now. As a couple of months passed, he told me that he was going out on a date. I was hesitant, but happy…it had been two years and he already realized that jumping into something for the sake of not being lonely wasn’t going to work. I thought he was ready.

Thankfully…this woman was a gem!

Not only did she make my dad laugh, but she was a former working woman who was just entering her retirement stage as dad was. She didn’t want to just sit around and do nothing all day; she wanted to get up and get out and live her life.

Honestly…I had never seen my dad that happy in a VERY long time.

When he talked about proposing this time, nobody in the family batted an eye. We were all happy for him and were more than willing to welcome this wonderful lady to our family. Thankfully, she said “yes” and they made plans to spend the rest of their lives together.

They both went down to Florida this past winter. I gotta be honest…I was a little bit nervous about the outcome. Not only did they come back still engaged, but his fiancée told me that they didn’t really fight once the entire time. A huge smile crossed my face: my dad was finally legitimately happy and in love one more time.

And I’m not only happy for him, but I’m really happy at who he is with. She is an older version of Sunshine, and that works just great with me.

She’ll never be my mom, but she’ll be a welcome addition to our family. I never thought I’d be happy to see my dad re-marry, but I’m glad that it’s happening.

Life’s too short to be unhappy.

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3 thoughts on “My Father’s Second Wedding

    1. Hi Sherry. I guess it really all depends on your situation. For me, enough time had passed since my mom had died that it didn’t feel completely weird. Plus, my new stepmom is a very nice lady…so I didn’t mind dancing with her at the wedding itself.

      Best of luck in whatever you choose to do. My recommendation is that if your dad asks you to dance, you probably should…it’s something that he’ll always remember.

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