One of the things that we wanted to do with our wedding was separate it from traditions. We wanted to take this ceremony, from start to finish, and make it our own. The way we have done that is to make the small details uniquely us.
The first thing, and I guess it’s not really a “small” detail, is the venue. My first wedding took place in a church. Sunshine’s took place in a backyard. Neither ceremony felt overly comfortable to us so we wanted to wed in a location that felt like a second home. We found that location the Halifax Seaport Farmer’s Market. The market was the location of our very first date (at least it was before it moved) and is a place that we have been to every other Saturday morning for the past five years. We’ve brought our children there on numerous occasions, we’re friends with a lot of the vendors there, and it has an incredible view over-looking Halifax harbour on a sunny day (tentatively the scheduled weather, by the way). It just seemed to be a very logical place for us to get married. It seemed like a fun option for us to choose.
The second detail was going to be the size of the wedding. For us, we didn’t want to invite a ton of people. We initially had only invited 30 people and thought that would be a good number. That number grew to about 40, of which we were sure at least 4 would politely decline (our awesome American friends). Of course, one of them actually accepted the invitation and we ended up inviting a couple more close friends. At this point, the number stands at 41…and that’s more than enough for us. In fact, we plan on gathering on a large set of stairs once the ceremony is over just so we can take a group picture of everybody. You couldn’t do that with 100+ guests. It’s also going to be convenient for a number of other reasons such as cost (obviously) and the ability to talk to everybody individually once the ceremony is over.
The next thing we decided upon was the food. After watching shows like Four Weddings, we knew that there was a thousand different options out there. In the end, though, we wanted food that meant something to us as a couple…food that we enjoyed the most in the city and would be easy to share with everybody else. In addition, it needed to have gluten-free options available. We agreed that the local gourmet pizzeria, Bramoso, was the place to go to discuss catering options. For those not in the know, “gourmet pizza” means it’s more than just your run-of-the-mill tomato sauce and cheese slice. For example, I’m excited about having some of their “Gladiator” pizza (back bacon, salami, pepperoni, smoked bacon and Sweet Williams smoked sausage, topped with red cheese mix and oregano) and also some of their “Bramoso Chicken Club” (signature white garlic sauce, local smoked chicken breast, Roselane Farm back bacon, smoked bacon, and cheddar/mozzarella/provolone cheese blend). Add to that the pizzas that Sunshine picked out to be gluten-free (she says it’s the best gluten-free crust in the city) and their awesome catering package (they’ll have someone on hand to serve the pizza and hand out cold drinks) and we couldn’t be happier about the decision.
We then decided that we didn’t need a wedding cake; that’s for traditionalists. We instead went with what we feel are the best cupcakes in the entire city, Susie’s Shortbreads. You might think that cupcakes are all the same, but you’d be wrong in that assessment. Believe me, I’ve had more than my fair share of cupcakes in my lifetime. I can honestly say that Susie’s makes the best cupcakes I’ve ever had…without a doubt. I mean, just LOOK at these and tell me that they don’t look phenomenally good to you!! And knowing that Susie’s was also a vendor that sets up shop at the farmer’s market every Saturday made the decision even easier to make. We wanted to buy local and support local, and they fit the bill. Add to that the fact that they have gluten-free (or as they call them, “wheat alternative”) and we could purchase the pop, water, and juice from them (no alcohol at this reception, kids), and we were both sold on the idea.
The reception is also going to be low-key. We’re just moving from the roof down to the second floor where there is a mezzanine that has a walk-out to an outdoor veranda which looks out over the harbour. We’re just going to make some “thank you’s” to everybody for showing up, dance to our song, and then let the 80’s music play over the next couple of hours (yes…Rick Astley will be playing!) while everybody eats and mingles. If people dance, great. If people go home, no worries! We plan on just having fun and hanging out with our family and friends before dropping the kids off at home so the newly married couple can go have an adult beverage or two with anybody who wants to join us.
We’ve got other details that are strictly “us”, too. I’m not wearing a tux, I’m wearing a suit. Sunshine’s beautiful vintage dress is orange, not white. Each of the girls were allowed to pick out their own dress colour. We don’t have any groomsmen or bridesmaids. Heck…we don’t have a best man or a maid of honor, either. We were even crazy enough to NOT pick out two people who could sign the marriage registry with us as witnesses (we’re actually going to call for volunteers, which we thought would be fun).
We LOVE what we have planned. It might not be for everybody, but it’s US…and that’s all that really mattered to us anyway.