The Ten Minute Trainer

A few months ago I received an email from Instigator Communications asking if I would be willing to try one of Beachbody‘s fitness programs to kick off 2013 and then blog about my experience and progress. With a wedding to prepare for and wanting to lose some weight, I decided to try the Ten Minute Trainer.

10-minute-trainerI know that I received this product, valued at about $80 or so, with the thought that I would give it a glowing review. Well, I’m not going to lie to my readers and I need to be 100% honest in my take and review of this particular product.

As soon as I opened up the box, I was immediately taken aback by all of the stuff inside. So right off the bat, let me say that you’re not just sent a couple of dvd’s or made to feel as though you’re being ripped off by just watching a video. I believe that if this is the program for you, then you’re totally getting your money’s worth. The package contained give “total body workouts” on three different dvd’s, a resistance band, a cardio belt, a customized workout calendar, a results guidebook, a recipe guide (!!), workout plans, and even a “jump start plan”.

I gotta be honest, I was a little overwhelmed at everything. It just seemed to be almost…dare I say…too much.


It then told me to go register at their website and track my progress, take before/after pictures, join the community forum and make friends in order to help out in the motivation process…it was just, I dunno, daunting to try to take it all in.

It intimidated me to the point that I put the whole thing away for two months.

10 minute trainerNow I realize that this might actually be exactly what some people out there are looking for, and that’s why I don’t want to slam the 10 Minute Trainer in any way. I can tell by the popularity of the program that it’s something that works for a LOT of people. It just seemed like it wasn’t my cup of tea, so to speak.

By the time March rolled around, I knew that I really wanted to start working out to go along with dieting, so I decided to open up the box and give the program a real try. I really wanted to like it. I mean…I REALLY wanted to like it.

Unfortunately, it just wasn’t for me.

10-minute-trainer-baseI have to be honest…I didn’t care for the head trainer in the series: Tony Horton. I found him to be a bit…I dunno…smarmy? Cocky? A bit arrogant? I dunno…maybe I’m being overly harsh in my criticisms but I really didn’t find him to be the one thing I was desperately hoping him to be: motivational.

I don’t want to sound like I’m trashing this product, because I really think this is a fantastic program for a certain type of person. I just don’t happen to be that particular person.

I’ve found motivation elsewhere…within myself…and I think that’s what is ultimately going to help me on a go-forward permanent basis.

Divorced…part two?

Divorce-DecreeAs I wrote about recently, I’ve had issues trying to stay on top of my divorce proceedings. I let paperwork slide, I procrastinated a lot, and the process took over three years. After receiving a letter saying that my request was being processed, I was feeling a lot better and both Sunshine and I went full-speed ahead with our wedding plans.

I got a letter in the mail this week and I expected it to be divorce papers. Instead, it was to let me know that “Part One” of the process had been completed and I was now able to proceed with “Part Two”.


Needless to say, neither Sunshine nor I were happy. I honestly thought that would be it. But now my ex and I need to sign some more documents and send them in. The documents are rather silly, actually…as all of the financial and child custody items were completed in the first batch of documents. These are more along the lines of “We promise to not change our minds” and things like that. Almost a waste of time, really.

But Sunshine is freaking out…and justifiably so. She’s concerned that we’re going to have to cancel our wedding and postpone it because my divorce won’t be done in time. It’s extremely stressful for her and I understand that she’s upset with it.

I’m not happy, either…so I’m doing my best to stay on top of things. I got my ex to sign the documents yesterday and there is just one more form that needs to be signed by the both of us in front of a lawyer. I’ve stressed to her just how important it is to get it done and couriered to me…so right now it’s all on her.

Getting married was easy. Getting divorced has been ridiculously difficult, which maybe is the whole point.

I know that going into this marriage to Sunshine that I’m never going to want (or need) to marry anyone else ever again. This is it…for better or for worse.  If for no other reason, it’s because I never want to go through this ever again.

“The Rut”

stuck-in-a-rutIf anybody has been in a relationship for more than just a couple of months (I’m assuming that covers just about all of you), then you probably know what it’s like to go through what’s called, “The Rut”.

As in…“We’re stuck in a rut.”

More than once over the past week or two, Sunshine has noted that she doesn’t want us to fall into that rut. We’ve both been going through some motions lately…a routine of sorts that doesn’t really let us be ourselves.

Y’see, if you’ve followed either my blog or hers over the past few years, you know just how much we love life. We love exploring the world around us and experiencing new and fun things together as a couple. Lately, we’ve been spending our “off nights” relaxing on the couch watching HGTV or the latest episode of Survivor. That’s not to say that there is anything wrong with that, because there isn’t. It’s also not to say that it’s not “us”, because it is…just not EVERY night that we don’t have the kids with us.

So how does a couple, four+ years into a relationship and scheduled to get married later in the year, get out of a possible “rut” or “boring routine”?

It’s going to take some work on our parts, for sure. We need to be spontaneous if we’re feeling like doing something new and different. We need to plan to take dates and then follow through when it’s actually date night. We need to make a conscious effort to be the couple that we WANT to be, not just the couple that we are (if that makes any sense).

Obviously, any other suggestions are welcome…so don’t be afraid to throw in your two cents.

To Travel Or Not – St. Thomas, U.S. Virgin Islands

Have you even gone to the U.S. Virgin Islands? Well…for those who haven’t and have at least thought about it, here’s just a taste of what this incredible location has to offer:

Paradise Point Skyride – St. Thomas, U.S. Virgin Islands