At this stage in my new life with Sunshine, there are different areas that each have their own individual ups and downs. Combined, they make up my experience so far; they define how my “staying” is going.

The first area is the relationship with my son.  This was the biggest obstacle that I had to even moving here in the first place. I have to say that at this point, it’s been a lot easier than I thought it was going to be.

Both he and Sunshine’s girls have a Blackberry Playbook, so we have had multiple video chats thus far with zero technical issues (it’s been a great connection and great sound so far…definitely better than any video session I had using Skype with Sunshine). Sure, he sometimes gets a little wound up…but at six years old, I wouldn’t expect him to sit still and have a deep, meaningful conversation. Sometimes I’ve got Sunshine with me, sometimes the girls are here with me, and sometimes we talk when it’s just me. But right now it’s been a lot of fun to talk to him and there hasn’t been any awkwardness or sadness. Heck…he even wanted to talk to me last Saturday just to show me his face paint from a birthday party!

The second area has been the “family unit” with Sunshine and her two girls. I’ll be honest…I thought that this could be extremely challenging, especially knowing that I had never lived with more than one person before.  I can tell you without question that mornings with all four of us trying to get ready at the same time can be a bit challenging, but so far we’ve all found a way to get into a groove. I’m sure we’ll settle into a routine very soon…it’s only a matter of time, right?

One of the things I absolutely love is our dinners together. Not since I lived at home with my parents as a teenager have I sat at a table on a regular basis to eat a meal. It’s an amazing experience that (after 11 days, anyway) isn’t getting old any time soon. It’s truly a feeling of FAMILY, and that’s something I’ve never experienced as an adult before.

The third area is my relationship with Sunshine. At this point, we’ve now been together in one stretch longer than we ever have been in our four-year relationship. Sure, there were concerns about how we would get along or (heaven forbid) if we’d start getting tired of each other already.


Needless to say, we’re more in love now than we were two weeks ago. This whole move has brought us closer together…to the point that Sunshine has actually cried tears at dinner because she was so happy with our family unit.

Put all of these pieces together and you have a winning formula…a completed puzzle that has made moving here with Sunshine and her girls the most incredible experience I’ve ever had. I’m part of a family now…a REAL FAMILY…and I couldn’t be happier with how everything has turned out to this point.

I’m staying…and it’s where I’m supposed to be.


3 thoughts on “Staying…

  1. oh I love this!! And crazy to think you’ve been together for a longer time at one duration now than any other time together over your relationship. Crazy! Family dinners – that must be the best 🙂

  2. This is beautiful, man. I’m so touched to have read your blog up until this point since I met you again at the engagement contest. Now, I’m a married man and you’re living with the love of your life and well on your way. Truly beautiful,man. I know I don’t really know you in “real life”, but believe me- your heart is in the right place and I smile when I hear you guys talking about the little things you love so much. All the best.

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