I’ve always felt the need to be guarded for a couple of reasons. For one, any time I let my guard down meant I then opened myself up to opportunities at being hurt by the person I was with. The other reason was that I honestly did not feel as though anybody could truly love me for who I really was…so I hid a lot about me and pretended to be somebody I wasn’t in order to “find happiness”.
It’s taken me a long time to come out of my shell enough to truly be myself. Hell…my ex-wife didn’t really know everything about me. I’ve actually told Sunshine things about my past that I never told my ex-wife. Sunshine is truly the person that I have ever felt the most comfortable with, and with those feelings comes 100% trust in her and in us.
Which is why this past weekend we went to a local bank and opened up a joint bank account together.
Now some of you may think that this isn’t really that big of a deal. Heck, even Sunshine didn’t really think it was that big of a deal. But other than my dad when he co-signed a mortgage with me, I’ve never had a joint bank account with anybody before…even my ex-wife.
So for me, this was a big deal.
We’re not going to start pooling all of our money in the account, but it’s a “vacation fund” account where we will throw in whatever we can in order to save up for a trip somewhere…whether it’s another cruise through the Caribbean or a drive down to Maine.
The point is that this is our first major move as a team…as partners…and the beginning of a lot of great things to come for the both of us down the road.