As I mentioned yesterday, my dad bought me a minivan so he could give the car I was driving to his new girlfriend. I firmly believe that it is a bribe of sorts and, as you can tell by the post title, the reason is because she moved into the house over the weekend.
Yes…my dad has dated a woman less than two months and she has already moved into the house.
He sprang this info on me when I went to visit him on Saturday. My little brother came up to me when dad wasn’t around and said that she was moving in. I told him that she’s moving in today. He said the house is going to shit now.
Obviously, that’s something neither he nor myself will tell him any time soon.
Dad and I went down into the basement after lunch to look for a tent to use next week on vacation. While we were down there, I did my best to ease into a conversation about her moving in. I tried to tell him that I was really concerned about the speed of things…that I didn’t want to see him get hurt. Basically, I gave him the speech that he gave to me back when I was 19 and wanting to move in with a girlfriend I had only been dating a couple of months. At the time, I just wanted out of the house….in this case, he just wants to no longer be lonely.
He told me that they were in love. My stomach did somersaults but what could I do? If that’s how he feels then that’s how he feels. If he believes that he’s in love with this woman after two months, who am I to argue? I knew I loved Sunshine after two weeks, so I realize it’s quite possible to fall in love quickly if there’s the connection.
He told me of his plans on going on trips with her. How she doesn’t like him spending money so that’s why he likes spending money on her. His intentions (already) of pulling out a ring near the end of the year.
This is all a whirlwind for me. It’s like I’m in the middle of a tornado and all I can do is just hold on for dear life and wait for it to be over. And from talking to others who have gone through (slightly) similar situations, my feelings will change and to that extent, it will eventually be over.
But in the meantime, I’m forced to accept this woman into my life. I don’t really have a choice in the matter. I think she’s nice and all, but I’m really having a difficult time dealing with this. I can never tell dad that, though…but because I think he can sense it a bit, that’s why he went and bought the minivan. Well…that and wanting to give her a new car instead of the one she was already driving.
Did I mention that my head was spinning?
I love my dad, I really do. All I want for him is to be happy. I told him that and he told me that he was…so I suppose that’s what I need to remember in order to not lose my shit over the whole situation.