I read some disturbing news last night over at Ms Single Mama’s website. Apparently her and ‘John Bear’ broke up their engagement…on Christmas Eve, no less.
It’s disturbing because a picture had been painted of their relationship through her words; a picture of blissful happiness and finding “the one”. He proposed…she said ‘yes’…they bought a house together…her son called him “dad”. Everything seemed perfect. She inspired a lot of people to help believe in love again.
Apparently there were issues, though…and because I’m just a reader (as we all are) I didn’t know all of the details of what was going on behind the scenes of her blog in her “real life”.
Sunshine and I discussed the break-up last night and we talked how our relationship also inspires people. We wondered if our blogs portrayed a “peachy keen” version of our relationship…if perhaps we weren’t being 100% honest in how we described things. I mean seriously…we do appear to be happy A LOT OF THE TIME.
But then we sat back and realized that while we do have the occasional argument, 90% of our relationship is, in fact, “peachy keen”. We still have that “butterfly” feeling of being in love. We still laugh together. We still love to talk with each other. We truly believe that we’re as happy as our multiple photos show we are.
If it ever becomes close to being over, we’ll know well in advance. Heck…I think you’ll know, too. Our relationship is real enough and strong enough that we’ll be able to recognize it and do our best to work through it before it becomes an issue too big to handle. And we blog…maybe not about 100% of our lives, but a lot of it…so you’ll probably be able to recognize the signs when we do.
IF that ever happens.
But going back to “the news”, I’m very sorry to hear about the break-up of Alaina and John. Hopefully they can both find happiness in 2011…whatever form happiness may take.