As you probably can tell if you read my blog, I love my two kids very, very much. While I’m extremely fortunate to have Ankle Biter live in the same city with me, I only get to see my daughter (i.e. Rugrat) twice a year as she lives a plane ride away.
I made some mistakes in my youth and let my daughter’s mom move to another province. It’s a decision I’ve regretted ever since.
One of the things that I wish I could go back and change is her upbringing. I mean, last month when she was down to visit for a vacation I expected to have a fun-spirited eleven-year-old ready to hang out with her dad and his/her new family (i.e. my four-year-old son, my amazing girlfriend, and her two awesome daughters).
What I ended up getting was an ungrateful, selfish little girl who wants to dress-up like an adult and be treated like an adult, but who still acts like a little girl. A girl who got pissy when she couldn’t get everything that she wanted at the drop of a hat.
Harsh words, I know…but unfortunately, they’re true.
I’m sure I’ll write more about this vacation over the coming weeks and how it has affected me and my relationship with Rugrat, but for now let me just say that my little girl isn’t quite the girl I expected her to be.
Is that fair?
Maybe I’m being a bit too harsh in my thoughts, but her attitude was disappointing…it was frustrating…and worse, it was completely out of my control.
I know I’m not alone, though. I’m sure there are other single parents out there (especially single dads who don’t have their kids full-time) who feel like they don’t have adequate influence over their kids. Maybe they feel like their children aren’t turning out to who they want them to be and feel as though they are slipping away from them.
How can you help raise a child if you only see them periodically?