The Same Page

Sunshine and I can’t seem to get on the same page.

Well…at least when we’re not together. I mean, there’s obviously frustration at being in a long-distance relationship without any real end in sight. To add to this frustration is our inability to communicate in a way we’ve done for a year-and-a-half without issue.

We’re both being overly sensitive on petty issues and then getting defensive about them…thus leading to unnecessary arguments. VIA EMAIL. It’s just one of the most unnecessary things I can imagine the two of us doing, yet here we are…doing just that.

When we’re together the world just seems right. And that’s the problem right now…we’re not together.

As we talked yesterday on the phone and tried to come up with ideas and a solution for these issues, a number of possibilities were thrown around for reasons why this seems to be happening to us more often than ever before as of late.

We couldn’t come up with a specific reason, but the distance seems to be a major factor for us right now. We’ve gone over a year-and-a-half without any problems, so having the occasional bump in the road may simply be amplified because it’s never happened before. Maybe subconsciously we’re wanting little arguments here and there because then it’ll make our relationship seem more “real”. Maybe we’re just not meant to be.

Sunshine arrives on Thursday night to spend the weekend with me. I’m very much looking forward to the amazing world that we live in when we’re together.

And I can only hope that things continue along that path the next time we’re apart.

Advertisements

10 thoughts on “The Same Page

  1. Written words for me are colder,crueler and tougher than spoken words.One can go back and look at it again and again and the person is not immediately there to explain etc.

    Writing “maybe we are not meant to be” is of course just a random pondering but for me reading that would feel like a dagger….I hate to generalize but some of us women just interpret words so emotionally and intensely even when they are a casual commentary.

    So what does all this mean?I don’t know,but emails,texts etc in a LDR for someone like me would definitely be a topsy turvy ride but on the other hand life is life and one can’t tiptoe around every little sentence…!!!

  2. Long distance is really hard. Sometimes it is easier to try and drop the petty stuff and instead just send an “I love you” message. My hubby and I kept a private blog to write to each other. We kept lists of things we loved, pictures for each other, articles we wanted to share, and even wrote in Spanish just because it was fun. We didnt let the arguments get to that blog, and so we were able to re-read it and keep it upbeat for each other.

    I know how you both feel. But remember the good stuff, and realize that the good that comes from when you are together is more important that being “right” in a tiff. I have really had to come to an understanding about that. I have made a point to say to myself that if I cant come to an agreement within 3 responses, then it isnt worth it, and must be dropped.

    Good luck to you both. I think the internet is rooting for you.

  3. Okay so here is my advice.

    Knock.It.Off.

    Okay really, it’s got to be hard, one person here, the other there. I just hope that you two aren’t going to be deciding to give up anytime soon. You guys are like the inspiration for so many of us!

  4. Well… after reading her post and reading yours, I can definitely feel the frustration on the part of both of you.

    Yes, long distance is difficult. And I wonder, if you’ll pardon my observation, if there is something deeper underlying all of this strife. I’ve noticed this all started when you decided that you didn’t have a set date to move after all. And now… now that the future is more uncertain, are you both looking for reasons to believe, “Maybe we’re just not meant to be.”?

    Um… been there. Done that.

  5. I look forward to your posts about your Sunshine as they seem to make you so “up” but this post isn’t. I’m at the year and a bit stage of a relationship with someone who is away two weeks out of three. Recently I have been having the “where is this going” feeling, and I find it so hard to talk about it because when you are with them in person is it fantastic and you don’t want to burst the bubble, but then its hard to talk over phone or internet because conversations like this need to be one on one. I agree with T (who I believe is living my life on the other side of the world – seriously!) She’s right that you can feel like you’re floudering when there is no goal in sight. Maybe it’s time to plan a holiday, or get thinking about xmas plans – something fun and special for you both to look forward to. And get the talking done early this weekend, so that you can focus on the “yes Ma’am” time again – woo hoo!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s