I’m sure almost every single woman out there has a very similar thought, in that their first time was also their worst time. “The man was too rough, he didn’t know what to do, they didn’t know what was going on, blah blah blah blah blah.” I’m not sure if men have similar stories, though.
Well…I lost my virginity in the back seat of my car to somebody who didn’t know I was a virgin.
I had absolutely NO IDEA what the hell I was doing. As you would probably expect after seeing that picture on the upper left (yes…that’s me back in 1990 about a week before “the event” actually took place), I was just happy to be having sex.
I had lied about losing my virginity to my friends a few months before. It was a peer-pressure situation where I just wanted them to get off of my back about not having a girlfriend.
I had met someone while on a “business camp thing” from Saskatchewan and we hit it off immediately. We never had sex, but we connected on a very special level…so once I returned back home, I just happened to tell my best friend that “it happened” and he ended up telling ALL of my friends at school the next day.
So the lie carried on without anyone knowing.
I wish I could go back to that night with that person and be able to be honest with her about my sexual (in)experience. We ended up having a “friends with benefits” relationship the entire summer after graduation before we each went off to different universities, but I wish I had been more up front with her. We weren’t in love or anything, but I should have been more honest.
It’s weird…both the woman I lied about and the woman who actually “deflowered” me are friends of mine on Facebook. Huh.
So what about YOUR first time?
Was it a good experience? A bad one? Was there at least love involved?