Props to the single mom!!

After having my 2 1/2-year-old all this week, I’m exhausted. Β With that exhaustion comes an appreciation for the women who just don’t get enough props for doing what they do each and every day:

FYI: The post that inspired this vid – You Had Me At Hello

Plus, I can’t just give props without dishing out some “blog link love” for the blogs that were mentioned:

Ms. Single Mama

My Single Mom Life

Modern Single Momma

Single Mom In The City

Single Mom Says

Single Mom Seeking

Tales of a Junction Mama

The Quest for T

Dad’s House

Single Parent Dad

Matt Logelin


33 thoughts on “Props to the single mom!!

  1. You are awesome. This is such a sweet video… and it means so much to hear this. I just can’t believe it.

    Thank you! Made my night.

    And one question – is your computer on the floor? ; )

    Give ankle biter a big kiss for me! And I LOVE how you say “about.” And come back and put a link to this video in my comment section, although I think your pingback is there. I’ll link to ya on Twitter tomorrow.

    1. Thanks, MSM. I just spoke off the top of my head.

      And no…my computer’s not on the floor. I normally record vids with my cheap Kodak camera, not my webcam (the audio never syncs correctly)…and it’s just easy to sit on the floor and look at the camera on my side-table.

      LOL…I hadn’t thought about how that might look to people. Hmmmm….

  2. Ha! Alaina… I was thinking that I loved the way he said “about” too. “Aboot”… *giggle*… you Canadians you!

    Sweetie, this totally made me cry. I have felt so very alone today. I have had those thoughts you mentioned… how that hell can I get through this. Sometimes I just don’t feel like being mom… I want to take time for me to think clearly or simply clean up my damn house! But I still have two little ones whose every sentence begins with “Mommy” and who constantly vy against each other for my attention. Most days, I’m ok. Today… I could just barely tolerate it.

    I agree with you. There is no room for hate. Not when so many of us wonder where love is.

    Props to you for everything you do. And for recognizing the good in so many.

    1. Really? Is my “aboot” that prevalent? Well…I suppose there are worse Canadian stereotypes that I could live up to, eh?

      I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling so down today…but it’s something that everybody goes through. We all have days where we wish we could take a “time out” from being a parent. It’s how we deal with those feelings that defines us.

      Tomorrow’s a brand new day, T…a new day that you can control. So take your deep breath…embrace the loving friends and beautiful children that you have in your life..and kick negativity right in the ass.


  3. Aw shucks, CBG. I’m totally tearing up – in a good way.

    Thank you, thank you and thank you for the props and the support!

    I do think that anyone who wishes to judge a single mom should, as you did, first spend at least a few days “in our shoes” to get a clearer perspective. Ignorance breeds negativity and experience reveals the reality.

    And yes, “aboot” is cute. πŸ˜‰

  4. That was such a great video!
    I can’t wait to show it to the BF when he gets home lol

    It’s so nice to have support like this, especially when times are tough!

    and I didn’t think you said about like aboot… it sounded totally normal to me πŸ˜‰ *cough*mustbecanadian*cough*

  5. Great video. Love the heartfelt commentary. I agree, every single parent faces struggles. We all have different situations – some have kids full time, some have to negotiate custody and coparenting relationships with an ex, some have to deal with an ex’s new love interest. All have chosen to take part in the raising of our children. I say props to that, for sure.

    Thanks for the shout out! You rock, CBG. Love your blog.

  6. Thank you for the linky love and the props!

    As my somewhat skeletal blog may reflect…I’ve hit the end of my single mommy rope and am beyond overloaded and exhaustion. I took a two (that turned into three) day weekend away to catch my breath on a rare opportunity without the babe, and I did NOT fill up at all. In fact, I came back and got more exhausted. And the week is not yet over! Oy!

    Sometimes, there are just no words to explain what it is like to have a two year old rule your world! Because it is not mine world or my time schedule or my anything anymore. Sleep? Haven’t slept for almost three years now.

    Anyways…now I’m rambling. Delirium will do that do a girl. I appreciate SO very much your creating this video and your kind words. There’s no time to be a victim when you’re a single mama. It’s sink or swim. And we’re all just swimmin’ as hard and fast and the best we know how.

    Thank you again! You rock! πŸ™‚

    P.S. You can call me Nikki πŸ˜‰

  7. You are awesome! Just absolutely awesome. I found this from Ms. Single Mama’s tweet. I am SO glad i did. If only more people thought like you. Now I have more blogs to read. Thank you!.

  8. You are one of those men the whole world can admire. Please, consider a radio show … I’m thinking wide reaching human kind with such a sweet message.

    Your thoughtfulness shows. So nice.

  9. thank u from a single mama of 2!! made my night as well, tears in my eyes as every day brings new challenges, joys and true happiness and strength!!! I found this n miss single mama’s tweet, sooo glad she shared it and you posted it!! thanks!!! your truly awesome!!!

  10. That was really cool. I’ve read you a couple times before, but I’ve never seen a video blog before, and it was really moving. While I think single dads deserve just as much credit, I agree with you on how the media portrays single moms vs single dads. Great Post!

  11. WOW! You know it really does rock hearing that. I totally agree with you! On every point and it totally helps reading the blogs I agree we do need them. I thank every blogger that puts themself out there for us.

  12. Well said. I was laughing at how tired you are from having your two and a half year old for three days – nice to have some honesty from the male perspective. I remember a couple of years ago before my husband and I seperated, I went on a yoga retreat to Mexico for five days. I have two children who were about 3 and 6 at the time and I have never seen a man so happy to see me in my entire life! Now, I do it alone and it’s nice to feel encouraged… Thank you! πŸ™‚

  13. Wow. Awesome video. Thank YOU for making this. You actually made me tear up (which is not common for me when watching a video).

    Yes, being a single parent is the toughest job out there–or at least one of them.

    (Sidenote: I like your blog. Let me know what you think of mine. HONESTLY. Thanks.)

    1. I appreciate the kind words, Amira. I’ll take a look at your blog tonight once the Ankle Biter’s head hits his pillow.

      And thanks to all of the VERY kind words from everybody. I just made a little video that was from the heart…didn’t expect such a great reaction. I guess it was something that needed to be said long before my video came along.

      Thanks again to everybody!

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  15. I got here from Alaina’s site. I think it was not just sweet that you recognize that the frustration that you are feeling after an exhausting 3 days, might be an everyday struggle for others, but that you took the time to actually record a video about it.
    Kudos to you! and Alaina has no reason to fret silly threats. Brush it off and realize the good she has done for so many.
    I pray for peace to the hater. I think there are deeper issues.

  16. Hi, I found you through Ms. Single Mom…
    I read that post “You had me @ Hello” … as a single mom for 8 yrs …I was outraged (and more) by it. But of course Ms. Single Mom handled herself very nicely. And now your vid response =)

    A big Hug to You >>> Thank You for your kinds words.
    Happy Easter Blessings

  17. You have no idea how timely your shout out to singles mom’s is for me. I have full custody of my 2.5 year old daughter and if I am lucky get a break every few weeks. In the beginning of my single mama crusade I often wondered how was going to be able to juggle all the balls in the air. I asked myself time and again, how is this possible? How am I going to be able to do it? Today, when people ask me how I’m managing – I confidently reply that I wouldn’t have it any other way. This is my life and I have learned how to embrace the piled up dirty laundry and the clean mound that still needs to be folded – we don’t have time to seek pity from those who only have sympathy, I don’t have the strength to fight for more time from my ex and I certainly do not have the tolerance for people that are single mama haters (You go Ms. Single Mama!!)

    I got to your blog from Ms. Single Mama’s blog and I have spent the better part of my evening reading your entries – awesome. Keep writing and keep loving your little boy. I’ll be balancing on pins and needles for your next post! Hey, and by the way…don’t worry about the laundry on your bed, it’ll be there tomorrow πŸ™‚

    Best, M

    1. The thing I’ve quickly learned is that eventually EVERYBODY gets better at being a parent…whether they’re single or not. It’s just such a dauntingly over-whelming task at first that you feel like you’ll never get through it all in one piece.

      I’m really happy that you’ve become so strong for your daughter and that things are moving forward for you.

      And thanks for reading. I very much appreciate your comments.

  18. Thank you so much!! I am a single mom working full time and going to school with absolutly no help from my ex. He has been missing in action for several years now. So it is nice to see someone that get a glimpse of our lives and appreciates and acknowledges it.

  19. …loved your video. I just started a single-mom-esque blog myself AND I’m in love with a bald guy! Ha! Ha! You cracked me up, I gotta tell ya.

    Please visit my blog to see what I’m all about. I’m going to follow you on Twitter, subscribe to you, etc. You rock!

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