Most of us bloggers initially started writing because we had something to say (well…duh!). Most of us “single parent bloggers” started writing because we were unhappy with out lives in some way or simply wanted someone to talk to…unidentified, unknowing, unjudging…almost like a combination of wanting to write a diary and a need to find others like it so we can not feel like we’re alone anymore.
So what happens if you find happiness?
It’s funny…I’ve read a lot of blogs over the past couple of years that have drifted off into the abyss or have completely changed their direction simply because they weren’t single anymore and weren’t unhappy. As you can probably imagine, a single parent has a LOT more time to blog when the kids are asleep and they’re home alone.
There are times when I hit a block…unable to click my fingers or my laptop in a way that satisfies me creatively. And after two years of writing, I feel obligated to write something every weekday (whether that feeling is justified by my reader stats or not).
I’m not unhappy in my life anymore. Well…at least for the most part. Sure, life isn’t perfect…but writing has helped me become a better person. The way I see the world is through much different eyes now than it was just a few short years ago.
Thankfully, I’ve never backed myself into a corner by saying that this blog is only about being a single parent. It’s not called “Single Dad Bald Guy” for a reason. I mean don’t get me wrong…being a single parent is a HUGE part of my life. But if I do happen to stumble across a writer’s roadblock, I can just write about a movie or the latest TV show that I’m into.
There have been a lot of single mom writers who we’ve “lost” over the last year or two and that’s depressing…but it’s not necessarily a bad thing for them. They’re happy, no longer single, and simply don’t have that need or urge to write about their trials and tribulations anymore. What you have to keep in mind is that sometimes life just gets in the way.
“Real life” is the blogger’s biggest roadblock, even though it’s the initial reason for blogging. Who would’ve thunk it?