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The Facebook Fan Page vs. Twitter: What’s Better for Bloggers?

So you’re a blogger and you want to expand upon your readership.  You’ve seen your stats…you know how many people read your blog.  There’s only one more thing to do, right?

CREATE A FAN PAGE ON FACEBOOK!!!

Ummm…yeah.

I gotta be honest, I don’t really get that.  Maybe it’s because I’m a dude or I’m out of touch or something, because I just don’t understand the reason/rationale for creating a fan page on Facebook.

And don’t get me wrong…I’ve got some really good blogger friends who have accounts under their blogger aliases: QTMama, Yummy Mammy, SingleMomInTheCity, & MsSingleMama just to name a few.

My question then becomes: WHY?

I can understand wanting to connect with people who read your blog and NOT wanting to divulge a “real identity” with them.  Sure…that makes perfect sense. 

I can also understand the ego-stroke.  I mean, there are a LOT of reasons to blog…one of them being that you can develop a readership of people who actually want to read what you have to say.  That’s definitely good for the ego, especially if you’re having some down times (i.e. a primary reason to blog to begin with).

But do you really expand upon that readership by turning to Facebook?  I suppose there is a very real chance that people who read you currently will “friend you” or “become a fan”, then that may create interest in some of their friends who may eventually read what you’re writing.

It’s possible, I suppose.

Again, I can understand if bloggers want to get a little more personal with fellow bloggers while still remaining fairly anonymous.  I mean, I was friends with QTMama on Facebook before I was friends with the woman behind QTMama(because, quite frankly, I’m a little creepy and she wasn’t sure if she should let me know who she was).

I think, though, there is a LOT more to gain by using your blogger-name on a different social medium: Twitter. 

I’m an unapologetic Twitter fan.  I don’t think I spend too much time on it…in fact, I think I could stand to spend MORE time on it.  My hope is that people will see a tweet of mine and be slightly entertained or amused and then want to check out my blog.  Period…the end.

Of course, I hope that my tweets are witty enough that they sometimes get re-tweeted and that expands on my fanbase, in a similar veign of what people are doing on Facebook.

I just feel that Twitter is the better option of the two.  Facebook seems to be changing in terms of what people use it for. I know my own usage has decreased dramatically over the past year and I’m primarily using it for uploading pics of me and those I love.  Every once in awhile I’ll throw up a new phrase (I think I’ve still got a “pants on the ground” reference on mine), but that’s about it these days.

On Twitter, though…the opportunity to gain new readers is a lot higher.  People will follow you to increase their social media numbers.  But I’ve found that if the tweet is interesting, some of these new people…people you don’t really know and many of them fellow bloggers…will re-tweet and/or comment, thus increasing the viewing to other people in their own social media group.

I’m my own example, too.  There are probably three or four blogs that I follow now specifically because of tweets I’ve read on Twitter or responses to my own tweets that I’ve replied to.

But I go back to Facebook…

I guess I just don’t get it.  What, exactly, is the point of generating your own fan page for your blog?  What if you don’t get many followers on Facebook?  Does that mean anything? 

I’d love to hear your thoughts.


My Top 10 Blogs of 2009

I’ve been blogging for almost two years now, but only started on WordPress back in January. In the year since my “re-birth”, I’ve found a great number of fellow bloggers that I follow on a daily basis through my Google Reader. Now, since I’ve been without internet since August (with the exception of my Blackberry and through a bit at work), I don’t get the chance to comment on these blogs nearly as often as I’d like to…and because of that I thought I would break down my favorite Top 10 Blogs of 2009 and give them a little bit of blogger love.

* I’m excluding Sunshine’s awesome blog because let’s face it…I’m a little biased.

So without any further adu, here are my favorite Top 10 Blogs of 2009 (in NO PARTICULAR ORDER):

The Quest for T

1. The Quest for T – I’ve been a fan of Tonya’s since I first became a blogger. She’s truly one of a kind. Her blog can hit deep emotional and personal depths and then jump out into explicit sexual fantasies and exploits. And during the two month separation that Sunshine and I had back in February/March (while we were trying to find ourselves), Tonya became a good friend to me and helped me process some things. She is real, she is genuine, and her blog is always one of the first ones I read every day.

2. QT Mama’s Weblog – Ahhhh QT. I’ve never seen a picture of her but I’m told she’s quite attractive…which makes her blog even more entertaining (heh). She’s got her own nickname for me, which I like. And she’s got a sarcastic wit to her that draws me to her blog like a fly to shit. Although, maybe that’s not the best reference in the world…

3. Random Esquire - RE is a puzzle wrapped in an enigma. RE takes awesome pictures of food. RE takes lots of pictures of a dog. RE is quite the character. RE wants to motorboat my girlfriend. What’s not to like?

4. Lady Mama – Lady Mama is a woman who moved from London to Canada a few years ago. She’s a great writer and I’m slightly biased in enjoying her exploits primarily because she’s (kinda) a fellow Canuck. Wait…is she even officially Canadian yet?   Hmmm…that could change things…

Rachel from SingleMomSeeking

5. Single Mom Seeking – Rachel wants the world to know that just because you’re a single parent, it doesn’t mean your life is over.  Plus it’s fun to see her personal life change and develop over time.

6. Memoirs of a Single Mom – Amira has had a really tough year. Her stories normally break my heart and draw me in because she’s such an amazing person. Her heart is massive and her kindness is all-encompassing.  I wish her nothing but the best in 2010 and I’m hopeful that things in her life will make a change for the better sooner rather than later.

Mindy from SingleMomSays

7. Single Mom Says – Mindy, like Amira, has had a really tough year. But what compelled me to continue reading was her unabashed honesty with her feelings. Whether she was in the right or was really off-base, she laid it all out there for the world to read. You don’t get brutal reality of someone’s emotions like that very often.

8. Hot Dads – Yes, I’m totally shilling this blog because I’m now a contributor. According to them, I’m a hot dad. Why in the world WOULDN’T I want to promote that???  But besides that, it’s a pretty slick blog as it gathers views and posts from dads from all across the blogosphere.  If you don’t like one particular blogger, just wait until the next day.  It’s interactive, it’s humorous, and it’s just a fun blog to be a part of.  Yes, I’m biased…but I visited the blog before being asked to participate.

SingleMomInTheCity

9. Single Mom In The City – Nicole is awesome!  She hasn’t been around too much lately as she’s been really busy moving in with her boyfriend and getting all settled into her new life, but when she writes she’s always an enjoyable read.  And the fact that she’s hot doesn’t hurt.

10. SingleMommyHood – No…this isn’t a blog just for single moms. But it’s created by two single moms who try to bring education and conversation to all parents. Rachel and Dr. Leah are great…and I’ve got a soft spot in my heart for Dr. Leah as she gave me some one-on-one advice concerning Rugrat earlier this year, and her reaching out really meant a lot to me. Definitely a one-stop-shop for parenting issues.

And y’know what? There are still a LOT more blogs that I visit on a daily basis that I don’t want to leave off the list (in alphabetical order)…

Adventures of a Single WAHM
AnonMom
Bad Mummy, No Cookie
Cost of Living
Irascible Crayons
Li’l CyndiLu Who?
Mommy Pie
Ms. Single Mama
Nucking Futs Mama

On Wings of Pigs
PT LawMom
Single Parent Dad

Stay At Home Mayhem
When Did I Go From A Kid To A Grown Up?

And of course, there are also some blogs that were my favorites that are either no longer around or just aren’t updated anymore…

Daily Momsense
Depot Dad (hope you’re doing well, Jim!)
Choice Mom Choosing
Half Mum, Half Biscuit
Tales of a Junction Mama

And what’s more is that there are still a LOT more blogs that I read occassionally that aren’t even listed here.  All in all, I’d say it’s been a pretty good year for blogging in general.  Really, blogging is something that has taken a mind of it’s own and there are more blogs out there than you can shake a stick at (y’know…if you really felt the need to shake a stick at a blog….which is kinda weird…just sayin’).

Have you got a golden gem that isn’t mentioned here? Do you have a blog that you’d like me to check out? I’d love to read more recommendations!


Gettin’ some bloggy lovin’!

I’m not one to go out and beg for praise (PLEASE VOTE FOR ME HERE!!), so I was pleasantly surprised to find out I was recently given a little bit of ‘blog love’ by a fellow blogger.

Between some personal relationship issues with Sunshine (since worked through), spending an entire day volunteering at an AC/DC outdoor concert, and travelling to Halifax to visit mom (still in the hospital as of today…but we’re hopeful that she’ll be released tomorrow), I haven’t really been able to catch-up on my blog reading.

So I was going through my Google Reader when I noticed that When Did I Go From Kid To Grown Up? had four unread posts.  Jeez…had I slacked off that much??  Bobbi is always leaving comments and occasional messages on Twitter…I felt bad for not reading as much as I should have.

When I visited today, I was really pleased to see my name in print.  Here is what she had to say:

I recently received my first blog award from Throne of Thornes, thanks. I am so excited to be able to now give the love back to (some) of the lovely’s that I read.

The only rule of this award is that those that receive must share the love.

with out further ado I give the love to:

  • Canadian Bald Guy
  • Blog_Lovin'_AwardSure…there were other people mentioned (including Sunshine), but mine was first on the list and this isn’t their blog now, is it?

    Heh…

    So I knew right away the people I was going to share this ‘award’ with.  I have a TON of blogs that I try to follow (even if I don’t comment…you should I know that if you have posted here before at least once, I read your blog) but there are a few that I seek out as a priority every day.

    Here are the blogs that I absolutely love:

    If your name isn’t here, please know it’s ONLY because of time constraints.  I mean, I can’t just throw up every blog that I love to read…can I?

    Can I??

    Anyway…the “catch” is that if you receive this you’re supposed to re-post and name some of the blogs that YOU love.  Or not…entirely your call.

    And hey, if you don’t already, please check out the above mentioned blogs.  I think you’ll be glad you did.

    Oh…and thanks again, Bobbi!


    Twitter Tales: 05-21-09

    Twitter

    Twitter Tales

    Okay…I can now freely admit it: I’m addicted to Twitter.  I don’t 100% understand how people claim to be able to make a ton of money using it…and I really don’t appreciate them telling me how to write my blog…

    At the end of the day, the thing that brings me back multiple times every single day is clicking on random links and reading and/or seeing things I’d otherwise never get a chance to read and/or see.  In addition, I find myself easily keeping up-to-date on the lives of some of my favorite fellow bloggers.

    Thankfully, my TweetDeck allows me to truly follow whomever I want to and kinda ignore all of the spam while still increasing my follower/following count legitimately (I hate people who hit-n-run).

    Alright…everybody ready?  Good…’cause it’s once again time to check out my weekly Twitter Tales:

    • Lily Allen on safari

      Lily Allen on safari

      Singing sensation (and paparazzi darling) Lily Allen has been tweeting from her jungle safari trip in Africa.  I like her stuff…Alfie, The Fear…she’s got a cute voice and she doesn’t mind going topless every once in awhile (what??).  Anyway…to me, it doesn’t really matter who she is or what she does for a living…this is a pretty cool idea.

    • My internet crush, T, recently blogged about her recent…umm…”experience” with a toy that she recently received in honor of May being National Masturbation Month.  I don’t really know what else to say other than I’m soooo glad I saw this tweet!!!

    t's toy review

    • Umm…I don’t even know WHAT to say about this next one, but I have to thank “Weird” Al Yankovic for providing a link to a commercial I would have NEVER seen if not for Twitter.  And I think you’ll agree with me…this is one of the most unforgettable commercials you’ve ever seen:
    • You wouldn’t think that there would be a really good excuse for getting caught having sex in the front seat of the car while YOUR TWO KIDS were sitting in the back.  Apparently…there is.
    • Nikki

      Nikki

      Nikki over at Lucid Insanity is trying to get a job as a Murphy Goode Wine Country Lifestyle Correspondent.  To apply, she made a couple of videos and isn’t sure which one to use for her application.  As such, she is asking anybody and everybody to view the videos and give her their honest opinions.  So c’mon…help a fellow blogger get a pretty cool job and help her out!

    • I can’t lie…I’m a fan of porn.  I know…a turn-off for some, an addiction for others.  I have to admit that there are three or four adult entertainers (as they prefer to be called) that I follow on Twitter.  The one that intrigues me the most is Teagan Presley.  One…obviously, she is a drop-dead sexy living Barbie doll.  Two…she’s a mother of two (!!) and seems to be quite the family woman outside of her job (seriously).  Three…her husband enjoys taking pictures of her both in and out of her “adult duties”.  Four…she apparently loves guys like me:
    Teagan loves geeks

    Totally NO real reason to post this other than for my own self-serving interests. Heh.

    • It's really all about the shoes...

      It's really all about the shoes...

      Just a couple of weeks ago, Nicole from SingleMomInTheCity was complaining that she had bought these great shoes but her boyfriend hadn’t taken her out on the town to show them off yet (LOL…I’m laughing at the fact I even KNEW that story).  Anyway, last weekend was the weekend that the guy smartened up and took his Hot Mommy Blogger out on the town.  It’s nice to see good people have good times in their lives.  When you follow others in blogs, you’re always rooting for them to have happy endings.

    • @TrailerAddict recently posted that the new trailer to Sherlock Holmes was out.  Now if you haven’t heard, Robert Downey Jr. is playing Holmes with Jude Law and Rachel McAdams playing co-starring roles.  I can’t lie…this looks awesome!!  But don’t just take my word for it, see for yourself:

    Dating Girl 1Dating Girl 2Dating Girl 3

    • TMZ isn’t usually good for much.  They were, however, very cool for posting what could possibly be the coolest picture I’ve ever seen.  Basically, they re-posted a picture of the space shuttle Atlantis as it passed by the sun.  Now the shuttle was traveling 17,500 mph at 350 miles above the Earth’s surface, and TMZ reported that the photographer only had .8 seconds to get the shot.  The sun looms in the background a mere 91 million miles away.  HOW AWESOME IS THIS???
    Amazing....

    Amazing....

    • Hmmm…now I know there’s still one thing left that I was supposed to mention.  But for some reason, I can’t seem to remember what it was.  Hmmm….whatever could it have been???  Oh yeah…

    KimPossible's questionMomma_Sunshine's answer

    Ahhh yes…my relationship decision was “outed” on Twitter.  You gotta love that.  Heh.  

    K

    K

    So here’s the deal…“Momma Sunshine” (aka K) and I dated late last year and early into this year.  At one point, we were sharing a blog that described the ups and downs of a long-distance relationship.  When we split back in February, there were fellow bloggers and readers who knew the both of us…but because we didn’t really talk too much  about the break-up, a lot of the awkwardness was left behind and people just continued reading both blogs.

    So for them, this all probably came as a surprise (as it did for us).  Hopefully, though, because they read both of our blogs they’re rooting for us.  I know I am.

    I never stopped thinking about her.  I never stopped regretting my decision to end things.  I continued to tell myself that I did the right thing for me.  I was wrong.

    So now here it is…three months later…and we’re going to give things another try.  I realized a lot of things recently…the biggest was that while I was afraid to fail in yet another relationship after the failure of my marriage, I was more afraid of not having K in my life anymore.

    Like a glove...

    Like a glove...

    I am travelling to K’s city this weekend and we’ll see what happens.  There are no expectations, no conditions, no pressure.  We’re just going to hang out and see if what we’re feeling now isn’t a residual situation…if it’s still the same real feelings that we had previously.

    Keep your fingers crossed.  If things go as we both hope they do, you’ll be seeing a LOT of entertaining blogs and tweets in the weeks and months to come (we’re self-admitted attention whores…lol).  If not, I’m sure we’ll both just say that it didn’t work and then move on with our lives…content in knowing that we at least gave it a legitimate chance.

    But c’mon…how can you NOT be intrigued by a tweet like this in the middle of the afternoon???

    Momma_Sunshine's awesome!

    God…this girl is six shades of awesome.  Wish us luck!!


    My “goin’ blind” beginnings

    Okay, this is totally unlike what I would normally post, so if you’re looking for your normal dose of G-rated Bald Guy, you just might want to be going here or here.  

    Just sayin’.

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    T

    T

    To celebrate May being National Masturbation Month, I’ve joined-up with the fantastic T from “The Quest for T” in a joint effort to dedicate blog posts to the glorious subject known as masturbation as May continues.

    We both have posted about this subject already this month, but we were having a hard time last night trying to decide how to write our next joint blog posts.

    T brought up the suggestion that we both post a blog talking about our “first time”.   I was a bit hesitant at first, but decided I could open up and discuss it in a way I was comfortable with, even if she decided to go in a different direction for her post today.

    So here it goes…

     

     

     

    …you ready?

     

     

     

    MY FIRST TIME

    by Canadian Bald Guy

     

    I remember the first time I was intimate with myself.

    It was over before it started.

     

    THE END.

    ~~~~~~~~~~

    Alright T…now it’s YOUR turn.  Heh.


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