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The Day She Called Me “Dad”

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The Day She Called Me “Dad”


5 Ways To Be A Good Ex

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5 Ways To Be A Good Ex


30 Days of Truth – Something You Have To Forgive Yourself For

One of the things I’ve been working on over the past few months is forgiveness. Primarily, forgiving myself for past actions that I’ve held over my own head ever since. I’m trying to do that because I end up beating myself up and making myself feel horrible over things that happened years ago.

The one big thing that I beat myself up over is my relationship with my daughter, Rugrat. Y’see, it was about seven or eight years ago when I was approached by her mom and asked if I would be okay with her moving to Ontario. Her new boyfriend’s family was there and they felt as though they could create a new beginning and a new life for themselves, which would end up benefiting Rugrat.

I agreed.

Looking back, I realize that I was selfish with that decision. I was still in my early 30′s and not really caring about anybody but myself. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend (the now ex-wife) and I thought the responsibilities of being a dad were going to be great when they were “part time”.

What a fool I was.

If I had only known then what I know now, I would absolutely have said “no”. My daughter isn’t living any better of a life in Ontario than she could have lived here. In fact, it’s probably worse. She has no phone or internet and I haven’t even talked to her in over a month.  I only get to see her once a year (if I’m lucky, twice) and while I know she loves me, I don’t have the relationship today with her that I dream of having.

I’ve got nobody to blame but myself.

I look at the relationship I have with my son today and I’m very happy. We’ve got, at this point, the relationship I’ve always wanted with a child. It could be better, obviously, but where his mother and I separated five years ago this life of having a part-time dad is all he’s ever known. The difference now is that I take advantage of every moment I have with my son…never taking him or our relationship for granted.

So while I’m still struggling with that decision, I know that I have to forgive myself for making it. It was in the past and there’s nothing I can do to change it…I can only make the most of the present.

That, however, is easier said than done.


Help Me Feed My Son!!

Okay…the title of this post really looks bad, doesn’t it.  Eeesh.

First off, my son isn’t starving and I’m not looking for any hand-outs.  No, my issue is my inability to make my way around the kitchen.  I’m a nearly 40-year-old man who somehow finds a way to burn water, so my cooking skills are not the greatest in the world.

To make things more fun, my son has inherited my palette…meaning he’s fussier than I am when it comes to food. He’s only five and yet hasn’t tried a ton of things because he refuses to try them.

Yes…I know…it sounds very familiar.

So I end up having to cook hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken nuggets, fries, chicken breasts, bacon, and the occasional pork chop as primary meals. On one hand, that’s not such a bad thing for a single dad to cook up…easy, quick, and fairly tasty. On the other hand, those are certainly not the most healthy choices in the world and I don’t want him to grow up like me…addicted to junk, overweight, and unhappy.

On the plus side of things, he loves a few healthy choices that even I won’t touch like strawberries and grapes. He also likes potatoes, carrots, and peas…so I suppose that’s better than nothing and opens up a few options for me.

But where he won’t try new things, it makes it even more difficult to come up with options for him to eat.  And that brings me to wondering what I can do on a go-forward basis.

I should be happy, though, that he won’t eat JUNK junk food. For example, not only does he never want to drink soda (although his grandfather tries to get him to taste it every time he visits), but he doesn’t eat candy. The only chocolate he likes is plain chocolate either in a bar or in an egg shape. He eats plain potato chips occasionally but won’t eat cake. He enjoys popcorn but hates licorice. He’ll eat vanilla ice cream, but don’t you dare give him ice cream with a flavour attached to it.

He’s an usual kid. His aversion to even trying pizza has me wondering where I went wrong, actually. So I guess this brings me back to wondering what I can do to feed my son.

Is having a fussy child normal? Can I expect his taste buds to change with time? If so, how do I help that progression along?

Sigh…


Why Your Teenager Doesn’t Tell You Everything

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Why Your Teenager Doesn’t Tell You Everything:

When Parents Are The Last To Know


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