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Hurry Up And Wait

This past weekend was a 4-day holiday for me (gotta love working for American companies). Where Sunshine had to work, I spent lunch on both Friday and Monday with her. Each day we actually didn’t sit down for a meal, but instead we went outside for hour-long walks together.

On Monday’s walk, we had a discussion about my current job search and how it was going. The discussion was more me complaining and beginning to get frustrated with the whole process and her listening to me and trying to knock some sense into me.

Y’see, I only really started looking for a job about 2 1/2 weeks ago. I’ve sent my resume out to placement agencies and I have applied for about one or two jobs a day online. I’ve got five or six different websites that I visit on a daily basis while I scour my way through the junk in order to find something decent.  Here is what I’m finding, though…

There are obviously going to be jobs that I have zero qualifications for. Nurses, IT, teachers…all solid positions if that is the background and education that you have.

Most of the jobs that I’m qualified for are minimum wage positions or slightly better paying call center jobs. With my education and background, I’m not sure I need to be stocking shelves at the local grocery store just yet (but I would if I had to…I’m not “above” any job). I worked in a call center environment for over five years and, while thankful for the experience, couldn’t be happier to be at a point in my life where I don’t have to do that type of work anymore.

The other type of jobs that I’m seeing are all above my experience level: “Senior” business analysts, “senior” project managers, “senior” account managers…companies seem to be looking for others to simply walk into a role and immediately begin banging out results. Well, it’s frustrating to me because I know I could do a lot of those roles with a bit more experience…but how to you get that experience when nobody is looking for a “junior” business analyst or “intermediate” account manager?

So it seems like the job prospects are “all or nothing” positions…either lower end or higher end of the pay scale. And that is extremely frustrating because I don’t see anything that is really at the level that I’m at. I suppose it’s because those people are happy to be working those jobs…as I am now, actually…so they don’t become available. I also suppose it’s because intermediate-level positions are normally hired and promoted from within a company to people who have been there for awhile and have worked their way up.

Sunshine reminded me, though, that it’s only been 2 1/2 weeks. She reminded me that job searches don’t normally end up with results in a day or two. I need to be patient and not get frustrated because I actually have a job of my own at the moment…there isn’t any real rush.

But the thing is that I believe there is a rush.

I want to be living with Sunshine and her girls. I want to try to start my new life in a new city. Knowing that we have a 90% shot at getting a place that looks like a fantastic beginner-apartment for the two of us as of August 1st makes me anxious and antsy to move.

So I told Sunshine last night that if we get the apartment, then I would take just about any job and sell my home in order to be with her. I figure I could continue my job search while I’m in her city…maybe it would be easier if I was actually there. But at least I’d be working and we’d be together and my nights could stop being so damn lonely.

I’m trying to be patient, but it’s totally a “hurry-up-and-wait” situation right now…and I’m not usually good with those.

Wish me luck, kids.


The Dream Becomes Reality

When I started this long-distance relationship with Sunshine 3 1/2 years ago, the hope was that one day we would be together living under the same roof. As the relationship progressed, I really thought that it was more of a pipe-dream…that it would be a solid ten years before we’d be together.

Then one day, everything changed.

My fear was that I wouldn’t be able to see my son; he was the whole reason I was so steadfast into staying in my city. Sunshine actually gave me the suggestion that I could Skype with my son during the week and rent an apartment so I could still visit him every two weeks. Combined, I might actually end up seeing him just as much if not more than I do right now. It seemed to be such a simple solution, yet one I had never really given any legitimate thought towards.

When I decided to propose, I discussed this idea with my ex-wife and also my son…who not only gave his blessing but was excited about talking to me on the computer as opposed to having a two-hour meal with me twice a week. Everything began coming together, but the reality of the situation still didn’t seem real…even after Sunshine accepted my proposal. It was still a day-dream that seemed months and months away.

We’re at the stage now where it’s down to a matter of weeks instead of months or years. My resume is now “out there” and I’m just waiting for the interviews to begin (y’know…when I’m actually called…lol).  I’m at the point where I’m hoping to get a job ASAP, even if it means it’s not my “perfect job” just because I want to start living with Sunshine and her two girls.

In addition, a possible new apartment/flat opportunity has come up that has the two of us very excited. We’re going to view the place this Sunday and unless the place is a total dump (which I can’t see being the case as they’re replacing the windows, renovating the bathroom, and also renovating the kitchen), we’re going to be all over it like stink.

So as one day passes onto the next, this dream of ours…a dream of two life-partners sharing a life together…is becoming a reality. And I, for one, couldn’t be any happier.


My daughter’s now a teenager

My daughter celebrated her 13th birthday this week.  She’s now officially a teenager.

Ugh.

I knew this day would come eventually. To me, this is almost as big a deal as it’s going to be when I turn 40 later this year.

UGH.

I guess it’s just one more sign that I’m getting old…and that, quite frankly, sucks.  I’m not ready to turn 40 yet. I’m not ready to mature yet. I’m not ready to worry about the clothes my daughter will wear out in public because they show off too much skin.  I’m not ready to tell her that she can’t litter her body with tattoos until she’s 18 and it’s out of my control.

On the other hand, I’m really looking forward to watching my little girl mature. Teenage years seem to rush on by so fast…she’ll be off to university before you know it.

On the other hand, I still want my little girl to remain a little girl.

Sigh.

So happy birthday, Rugrat. Even though we’re not as close as we’d like to be and we don’t talk as often as we’d like, we both know that we love each other…and when looking at life’s simple pleasures, that’s one of the greatest gifts that we share.


My “Long-Distance Relationship Bucket List” for 2012

Last year, Sunshine came up with a dual blog-post idea for the two of us. Here is the idea…

  1. We each outline 10 things that we want to accomplish in the next year as a couple.
  2. Share our lists via our blogs.
  3. Get out there and make each other’s dreams come true!

So without comparing notes of any kind (her post can be found here), here is my list of things (in no particular order ) that I would love to do with Sunshine in 2012:

1. Go to Maine to visit Jobo. We’ve been blogger friends with Jobo for awhile now and us visiting her almost took place last fall.  Well, the wheels are in motion and we’re going to see if we can really make this happen in 2012. Sunshine and I deserve a vacation, and what better way to relax than to meet a blogger friend in the beautiful state of Maine? Hopefully we can make this actually take place.

2. Enjoy the Saint John waterfront in the summertime. The last time Sunshine and I visited Saint John we were attacked by a fog monster. I know that the waterfront there, while not as awesome as Halifax, is supposed to be quite excellent in and of itself. I’d like to experience that.

3. Attend Farmer’s Markets in both Saint John and Fredericton. Sunshine and I love going to farmers’ markets. While we have a special place in our hearts for the market in Halifax, we really loved our last visit to the market in Saint John and can’t wait to go back to visit again. And where we both lived in Fredericton back in the 90′s (just down the street from each other, no less!), we would both love to go back and see what their farmer’s market has to offer.

4. Do a half-marathon together. Now I’m not going to be able to run a half-marathon like Sunshine did back in October, but I have an exercise goal of walking a half marathon at some point during the year. And she has already told me that she’d love to walk it with me, so that’s definitely something I want to accomplish in 2012. For me, the guy who NEVER exercised his entire life and wondered how he suddenly got overweight once he stopped smoking and entered his mid-30′s, actually walking a half-marathon will have a lot of meaning…knowing that I’m finally taking control of my life in a healthy way so that I can live to see my children grow old.

5. Attend a live play or a musical. We could have said that we did this while on the cruise ship last March, but realistically speaking…the entertainment was too cheesy to count as a REAL play or musical.  I’m a huge fan of live theatre and it’s been way too long since I last saw something. I don’t think Sunshine is much of a fan, but I’m hoping we can watch something at some point during the year because there always seems to be something going on in her city to watch.

6. Attend a concert together. Again…we could have cheated last year and considered the entertainment on the cruise ship as “a concert”, but it REALLY wasn’t. Obviously, it’ll be tough to try to match-up our schedules with a concert that we both want to see…but after missing out on such diverse acts as Prince and Platinum Blonde over the past couple of months, I’m really eager to see a concert with her in 2012.

7. Go to at least 5 restaurants that we have never been to before. We easily accomplished this last year and, quite honestly, I can’t wait to do it all over again. It’s one of those “small things in life” that we experience together and enjoy a lot.

8. Go to a strip club. Funny enough, this one might be the first one to be crossed off of the list. I think the conversation started last fall when I noticed a lot of signage around her city for a particular adult entertainment establishment (the only one in the city, actually). She casually mentioned that she wouldn’t mind going to the establishment with me at some point, which made me a VERY happy camper who was even more impressed at just how awesome his girlfriend was.  And after reading a certain person’s own list recently, Sunshine got the idea to casually suggest it as an option of “something to do” this upcoming Friday night.  Ummm…hell yeah I jumped at that idea!! 

And for those who would like to “live vicariously” through this unusual dating experience, I shall be Tweeting from the adult entertainment establishment on Twitter: @CanadianBaldGuy

9.  Go to a GOOD drive-in movie. We actually got to see a couple of movies one night at a drive-in during the summer, but the only problems were (1) the movies weren’t any good and (2) the theatre was about two hours away from Sunshine’s house…meaning it was around 2am by the time we got home and we were DEAD tired.  There is a drive-in only 30 minutes away from my house, so hopefully we can schedule something over the summer.

10. My mystery pick.  I think Sunshine has an idea of what this could be. I think long-time readers of this blog have an idea of what this could be. At some point…at some time…something is going to happen this year.  That’s all I’m willing to say at this point. I guess it’s all the more reason to stay tuned!


CBG’s Christmas Holiday in Pictures

Well…the holidays are over and I’m back to work. From top to bottom, it was one heckuva great time to be with Sunshine and our kids. The kids had fun, my dad enjoyed having us over to visit, and both Sunshine and I felt as ooey-gooey in love as we ever have.

So without further adu, here is how my Christmas holiday looked like thru pictures…

Because of timing issues, I wasn't able to have my son for Christmas Day. However, I did have him on the 23rd...so we went to my dad's to have our own "Christmas Before Christmas". Ankle Biter opened up a bunch of gifts and we all ended up having a great time.

On Christmas Eve I head out first thing in the morning to be with Sunshine and her girls for Christmas. The weather didn't quite co-operate. Well...it's wasn't a huge storm or anything, but just enough snow fell to make the highways slow-driving on one lane without the ability to pass. It just sucked. Hard.

Yes...this is lasagna. Yes...this is what we had Christmas Eve for dinner. And yes...this was freakin' awesome!!

Enjoying Christmas Eve dinner.

This is what the tree looked like when we went to bed just before midnight. Not too shabby!

The first gifts were opened at 5:21am. If it were up to the girls, they would have been opened a good 45 minutes earlier. To say that they were excited would be an understatement.

So once the girls opened their gifts and we all had breakfast, they ended up going to their dad’s for the remainder of Christmas Day. Sunshine and I head out to visit my dad for Christmas dinner.

The next two days were spent in my bedroom. Literally. We watched movies, ate breakfast/lunch/dinner, and did “other things” in my bedroom for 48 hours. It was pure bliss. And really, it was something that the two of us needed…some downtime.

And no…there are no pictures of these two days.

After a couple more days returning to work, I drove to pick up Sunshine and her girls and brought them back to my dad’s for New Year’s Eve. I then drove to pick up Ankle Biter and brought him back, too. Finally…we were all in the same place at the same time (with the exception of my daughter, who was unable to make it down for Christmas this year).

So here are our New Years’ pics…

One of the gifts that all three kids got was a sock monkey. The fun part was that you bought a kit and put it together yourself. The not-so-fun part was that you ended up sewing the monkeys together yourself. In this pic, Ankle Biter was beginning to stuff the monkey's legs.

The kids LOVED their sock monkeys. There must be some kind of extra connection they have because they help to put it together themselves.

Kiddo was quite excited to be the first one with a "completed" monkey.

Sunshine couldn't have been happier to be sewing on New Year's Eve. Yeah...believe that one.

Being the hardcore partiers that we are, New Year's Eve for us was spent drinking a bit (two beer for me, a couple of glasses of wine for Sunshine) and playing Blokus. We literally had to force ourselves to stay awake in order to hit midnight. Thankfully, though, playing until midnight allowed me to win 2 out of 3 games. Not that I'm counting or anything. Heh...

Nothing says "New Year's Breakfast" like cereal and water. But hey...does he look unhappy in any way?

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....

On New Year’s Day, we visited some more of my family and then came back to my place to crash for one more night. In the morning, I took Ankle Biter back to his mom’s and I took the girls back home to their dad’s. Thankfully, we got one more picture of the kids together before we left for the kids’ journeys home…

Happy New Year 2012!!

Sunshine and I then kinda melted onto the couch exhausted for the remainder of the day.

All in all, it was a GREAT time. It was a LOT of traveling, but it was totally worth it.


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