When my ex-wife and I first met, it was in a training session for a new job that we were both starting. Our trainer for this job was 10 years younger than we were…19 or 20 and just a pup, but he had a maturity to him that made my ex and I kind of take him under our wing once training was done and we all became friends.
At one point, he was even our roommate.
Over the course of five plus years, I considered him to be one of my best friends. I could open up to him and I really felt comfortable talking to him about things that I felt I couldn’t talk about with anybody else.
When the ex and I broke up, he didn’t abandon me. He and his girlfriend were extremely supportive and I couldn’t have been more appreciative of their support. They had no problems meeting Sunshine and only showed open arms to her because they knew she made me happy…especially after a period of a couple of years where I was in a very depressed state.
Then something happened that floored me.
I found out that he was cheating on his girlfriend…a woman I had come to know and care for very much. He moved out and immediately picked things up with this new woman. Sunshine and I even got together with his (now) ex-girlfriend to hear her side of the story. She wasn’t mad…she wasn’t vindictive…she was hurt and confused. I was even MORE confused than she was.
I was angry at him. I didn’t understand the situation. I just didn’t want to talk to him. And now it’s been months and months later and I still haven’t talked to him.
I guess I’m still angry.
Yesterday I received a Facebook message from his new girlfriend. Yes…his new girlfriend. Here is what she sent to me:
“You Don’t Know me, But I am XX’s GF! His B-Day is this Friday … Im throwing him a surprise get Together… he has no idea about. Were meeting at Cheers @ 645, XX and I will Show up at 7pm… Maybe a few minutes after! I know he has mentioned you before… and saying that you guys should get together for a beer… so It would be cool if you could drop in! Reservation is under my name.
Hope to See You there.. “
Is it wrong that I was immediately taken aback from this message? I mean…does she not realize that she’s considered “the other woman”?
So after a brief discussion with Sunshine, I decided that it would simply be too awkward to show up there. And realistically, I just don’t want to show up.
I guess I’m still angry.
I don’t know when my opinion will change. I don’t know when I’ll feel comfortable getting together with him and having a good discussion over a beer. What I do know is that the time isn’t now and may not be any time soon.
Is that wrong?