Category Archives: K

Back to reality…

I’ve said those words before after spending a weekend here: “Back to reality.”

But the fact of the matter is that it doesn’t get any more REAL than what we shared this weekend.  So instead, I’m going to consider this “back to work”.

Why work?  For one because it’s never “work” when we’re together.  Nothing ever feels as natural and free and comfortable as we do when we’re in the same room.  And also because we live 3 hours away from each other.  This is the primary obstacle that I have with our relationship.  This is the fear that I need to battle  and work on the most.

Being away from her.

So I’m not going “back to reality”.  This weekend wasn’t a blur.  This weekend wasn’t a dream.  Any time in the future, if we’re wondering why we’re going through the pain of being alone…if staring at a webcam and just being in physical pain because you want so badly to be with the other person…if I ever get afraid of failing again; all I have to do is remember this weekend.

This is what we’re fighting for…

Peggy's Cove: 05-24-09

The reason...

It’s been an emotionally draining weekend:

  • Reliving the past in an attempt to ensure we don’t repeat the same mistakes again or revert to the same thoughts and fears.
  • Thinking about the right now and how we truly believe that we’re in a unique position…one that many people never get to fully realize and appreciate and feel.
  • Thinking about that unknown future…and doing our best to convince ourselves to never forget the reasons why we’re together in the first place.

There are a LOT of pictures that I haven’t had the chance to upload yet (we’ve both been using pictures from her camera).  On top of that, we even had a professional photographer ask to take pictures of us yesterday as we visited Peggy’s Cove (she said that she’d email us the photos…I can’t wait).

So the next two days may just end up being a big two-part post on my part.  Primarily because I’m a blogger…and I know that very much like me, there are many of you who want to know more details about our weekend together.  So just be patient…they will be coming soon.

I leave in one hour.

Back to work.

Peggy's Cove: 05-24-09

Peggy's Cove: 05-24-09


Fear? BE GONE!!

Fear?  Who's afraid??Yesterday was an absolutely perfect day.  And no, I’m not just talking about the weather.  From beginning to end…it was absolutely perfect.

One of the big conversation topics K & I have been having has been about my fears.  Obviously, the biggest reason I broke things off back in February was because I was scared.   I was afraid to put in the effort that is required to make a relationship work because I did that in my marriage and it still failed.  I didn’t want that to happen again.

I’ve already explained how I am now more afraid to NOT have her in my life than I am of failing at the relationship.  I think that’s a big self-actualization step…and definitely a huge step forward for us.

I felt, though, that I needed a symbol.  Something symbolic that I needed to do that would prove to her just how serious I was about over-coming my fears and being with her…regardless of the outcome.  So I asked myself, “Self…what is my biggest fear?”

HEIGHTS.

I can’t even begin to tell you how afraid of heights I am.  I shake…I feel faint…I feel frozen.  I look up at skyscrapers and feel dizzy and that I want to fall backwards.  I have an extremely difficult time climbing my ladder and putting up Christmas lights. Heck…I even have a rough time changing a light bulb.

MacDonald Bridge - Halifax, Nova Scotia

MacDonald Bridge - Halifax, Nova Scotia

So there’s this bridge in Halifax…the MacDonald Bridge.  I cross it every time I come to visit her.  It’s pretty big (at least for the area).  One day when driving over it together, I had mentioned that I had no idea that people could actually walk across the bridge and that there was NO way I’d ever do it.  She joked that she had crossed a few times, and “the best” was when a bus would drive over it and the entire walk-way would shake.

Yeah…doesn’t that sound fun??

So yesterday, while walking our 10+ miles (which is INSANE for me…lol), I casually mentioned that one day I would walk across that bridge in an effort to prove to her how serious I was about conquering my fears.  How serious I was about being with her, regardless of the unknown outcome.

SHE JUMPED AT THE OPPORTUNITY.

I was extremely hesitant.  I really didn’t think she’d take me up on the offer.  But once she got “the look” in her eyes and smiled…well, I just knew I had to do this.

This was going to be the symbol.  This was going to be battling my biggest fear.  For her.

We drove around looking for a place to park.  I’ll totally admit…I tried to back out numerous times.  Even walking down to the bridge, I attempted to turn around and flee.  But I couldn’t.  I had to show her I wouldn’t do that again…for anything.

Here’s the proof…

Fear?  BE GONE!!  05-24-09

Fear? BE GONE!! 05-24-09

Needless to say, I didn’t quite get it half-way before we stopped to take this picture.  She looked at me…told me she was proud of me…and then gave me the biggest hug.  It was quite the moment.  I felt as though I could do anything…

…and then a bus passed right next to us and the entire bridge shook.

“Okay…that’s it…we’re going back NOW!!”

Heh.

But I did it.  I did it for her.  I did it for us.

Talking with a very good friend from Texas recently, she helped me realize that I was really going through a massive battle of “head vs. heart”.  And she was absolutely right.  I’ve always been driven by my head: What’s best for me?  How will the future pan out?  Will everything be okay?  I never really let my heart take over before.

It’s taking over now…and I couldn’t be happier about it.

05-24-09

Best Day Ever: 05-24-09

(A full weekend recap will be up when I get back home sometime on Monday)

Wait…where the hell am I?

Downtown Halifax - 05-22-09I woke up this morning and didn’t know where I was.

Then I realized I was just where I needed to be (and really, should have been all along).

Timing, as they say, is everything.

It was quickly realized yesterday that what we went through…the painful break-up and ensuing three months of “trying to forget”…was exactly what we needed.  She went through a period where she gained inner strength and true independence.  I went through a period where I constantly questioned myself.

In the end, the timing wasn’t right the first time.

But now?  Now I realize that I’m more afraid of not having her in my life than I am of failing.  She’s now ready to allow herself to be happy because she knows that she’s worth it.

It’s only Saturday morning, yet it feels like it has already been the greatest weekend ever.

Watching the road while trying to drive is REALLY over-rated.

Watching the road while trying to drive is REALLY over-rated.

And for those of you who want more details on “Day One”…you’re outta luck.  Heh.

What I will say, though, is that our little “Twitterverse” and “Blogosphere” has seemingly exploded with well-wishes and curious questions.  And for that we are both truly grateful and a bit surprised.

I suppose that is one of the many awesome things about being a blogger…the anonymous connections that you make can quickly turn real (if you allow them to).  There are people out there that I consider friends now and they are genuinely interested in my well being.  To those who don’t know what Twitter is or who cannot understand putting your thoughts down in a blog every day…it might seem impossible to understand.  For us, though…it’s a very warm feeling.

So as the sun rises over Halifax, Nova Scotia and it’s 6:30 am on a Saturday morning…I sit here wide awake as she sleeps.  I’m excited about the day ahead and excited about our future together…and I haven’t thought that far ahead since the day I proposed to The Ex.

Thank god she never gave up on us.

Alright…off to shower and then off to the market (mmmm…Chinese food for breakfast).  We’ve got a full day, I think.  The question is, though…just how much time will be spent outside today?

Heh…don’t be thinking that…we are TOTALLY behaving ourselves:

TOTALLY behaving: 05-22-09

TOTALLY behaving: 05-22-09


Fun Music Fridays!!

Alright…in about four or five hours I’m hitting the road and heading out to see K for the weekend.

I don’t want to add any pressure on an already stressful situation, so I won’t.  I’ll just say that I cannot wait to see her and spend the weekend with her…just hanging out and walking and talking and enjoying each other’s company again.

Needless to say, we’re both pretty excited (those following us on Twitter are probably already annoyed..lol).

So the music this week is reflective of my journey to Halifax, Nova Scotia to see the most amazing woman I’ve ever known (next to my mom, of course)…

First up is a Cyndi Lauper classic.  K actually posted this song on Blip at about 1am this morning, so I figured I’d follow up with the video:

 

Next is a song by Journey, a band that the two of us enjoy immensely.  No the song choice has no meaning whatsoever…why do you ask?

 

Finally, a song that means a lot to us…simply because there’s a story behind it and it reminds me of a moment when we shared pure joy.

 

Well…wish us luck in our future endeavors!  I might be able to post an update…I might not.  Either way, I hope everybody enjoys their weekend and cheers to happiness all around!


Twitter Tales: 05-21-09

Twitter

Twitter Tales

Okay…I can now freely admit it: I’m addicted to Twitter.  I don’t 100% understand how people claim to be able to make a ton of money using it…and I really don’t appreciate them telling me how to write my blog…

At the end of the day, the thing that brings me back multiple times every single day is clicking on random links and reading and/or seeing things I’d otherwise never get a chance to read and/or see.  In addition, I find myself easily keeping up-to-date on the lives of some of my favorite fellow bloggers.

Thankfully, my TweetDeck allows me to truly follow whomever I want to and kinda ignore all of the spam while still increasing my follower/following count legitimately (I hate people who hit-n-run).

Alright…everybody ready?  Good…’cause it’s once again time to check out my weekly Twitter Tales:

  • Lily Allen on safari

    Lily Allen on safari

    Singing sensation (and paparazzi darling) Lily Allen has been tweeting from her jungle safari trip in Africa.  I like her stuff…Alfie, The Fear…she’s got a cute voice and she doesn’t mind going topless every once in awhile (what??).  Anyway…to me, it doesn’t really matter who she is or what she does for a living…this is a pretty cool idea.

  • My internet crush, T, recently blogged about her recent…umm…”experience” with a toy that she recently received in honor of May being National Masturbation Month.  I don’t really know what else to say other than I’m soooo glad I saw this tweet!!!

t's toy review

  • Umm…I don’t even know WHAT to say about this next one, but I have to thank “Weird” Al Yankovic for providing a link to a commercial I would have NEVER seen if not for Twitter.  And I think you’ll agree with me…this is one of the most unforgettable commercials you’ve ever seen:
  • You wouldn’t think that there would be a really good excuse for getting caught having sex in the front seat of the car while YOUR TWO KIDS were sitting in the back.  Apparently…there is.
  • Nikki

    Nikki

    Nikki over at Lucid Insanity is trying to get a job as a Murphy Goode Wine Country Lifestyle Correspondent.  To apply, she made a couple of videos and isn’t sure which one to use for her application.  As such, she is asking anybody and everybody to view the videos and give her their honest opinions.  So c’mon…help a fellow blogger get a pretty cool job and help her out!

  • I can’t lie…I’m a fan of porn.  I know…a turn-off for some, an addiction for others.  I have to admit that there are three or four adult entertainers (as they prefer to be called) that I follow on Twitter.  The one that intrigues me the most is Teagan Presley.  One…obviously, she is a drop-dead sexy living Barbie doll.  Two…she’s a mother of two (!!) and seems to be quite the family woman outside of her job (seriously).  Three…her husband enjoys taking pictures of her both in and out of her “adult duties”.  Four…she apparently loves guys like me:
Teagan loves geeks

Totally NO real reason to post this other than for my own self-serving interests. Heh.

  • It's really all about the shoes...

    It's really all about the shoes...

    Just a couple of weeks ago, Nicole from SingleMomInTheCity was complaining that she had bought these great shoes but her boyfriend hadn’t taken her out on the town to show them off yet (LOL…I’m laughing at the fact I even KNEW that story).  Anyway, last weekend was the weekend that the guy smartened up and took his Hot Mommy Blogger out on the town.  It’s nice to see good people have good times in their lives.  When you follow others in blogs, you’re always rooting for them to have happy endings.

  • @TrailerAddict recently posted that the new trailer to Sherlock Holmes was out.  Now if you haven’t heard, Robert Downey Jr. is playing Holmes with Jude Law and Rachel McAdams playing co-starring roles.  I can’t lie…this looks awesome!!  But don’t just take my word for it, see for yourself:

Dating Girl 1Dating Girl 2Dating Girl 3

  • TMZ isn’t usually good for much.  They were, however, very cool for posting what could possibly be the coolest picture I’ve ever seen.  Basically, they re-posted a picture of the space shuttle Atlantis as it passed by the sun.  Now the shuttle was traveling 17,500 mph at 350 miles above the Earth’s surface, and TMZ reported that the photographer only had .8 seconds to get the shot.  The sun looms in the background a mere 91 million miles away.  HOW AWESOME IS THIS???
Amazing....

Amazing....

  • Hmmm…now I know there’s still one thing left that I was supposed to mention.  But for some reason, I can’t seem to remember what it was.  Hmmm….whatever could it have been???  Oh yeah…

KimPossible's questionMomma_Sunshine's answer

Ahhh yes…my relationship decision was “outed” on Twitter.  You gotta love that.  Heh.  

K

K

So here’s the deal…“Momma Sunshine” (aka K) and I dated late last year and early into this year.  At one point, we were sharing a blog that described the ups and downs of a long-distance relationship.  When we split back in February, there were fellow bloggers and readers who knew the both of us…but because we didn’t really talk too much  about the break-up, a lot of the awkwardness was left behind and people just continued reading both blogs.

So for them, this all probably came as a surprise (as it did for us).  Hopefully, though, because they read both of our blogs they’re rooting for us.  I know I am.

I never stopped thinking about her.  I never stopped regretting my decision to end things.  I continued to tell myself that I did the right thing for me.  I was wrong.

So now here it is…three months later…and we’re going to give things another try.  I realized a lot of things recently…the biggest was that while I was afraid to fail in yet another relationship after the failure of my marriage, I was more afraid of not having K in my life anymore.

Like a glove...

Like a glove...

I am travelling to K’s city this weekend and we’ll see what happens.  There are no expectations, no conditions, no pressure.  We’re just going to hang out and see if what we’re feeling now isn’t a residual situation…if it’s still the same real feelings that we had previously.

Keep your fingers crossed.  If things go as we both hope they do, you’ll be seeing a LOT of entertaining blogs and tweets in the weeks and months to come (we’re self-admitted attention whores…lol).  If not, I’m sure we’ll both just say that it didn’t work and then move on with our lives…content in knowing that we at least gave it a legitimate chance.

But c’mon…how can you NOT be intrigued by a tweet like this in the middle of the afternoon???

Momma_Sunshine's awesome!

God…this girl is six shades of awesome.  Wish us luck!!


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