Surely, this question has been raised before. As I mentioned briefly last week, Sunshine had a single male friend who she recently had a falling out with. Recently, she asked me what I thought about the possibility of her and the girls going out on a camping trip with him overnight (or two). To me it just seemed odd for a single straight guy to want to do that. So I told her straight-up that I felt weird about it but I trusted her to do whatever she wanted to do. She ended up telling her friend that maybe it wasn’t such a good idea to go camping, at which point the guy got upset and admitted that he felt jealous of me and had feelings for her.
This has led Sunshine to question a LOT of his motives from conversations over the past few months. I told her straight-up that I thought she should give him the benefit of the doubt and that things he said to her weren’t said with a hidden agenda in mind.
All of this story leads me back to the original question: Can a single man really be “just friends” with a woman?
My thoughts? In a nutshell, no…but with a catch.
I honestly think it’s impossible for a single guy to be “just friends” with a woman if there’s even the REMOTE possibility of attraction (and whether or not she’s even single to begin with). Why? I think it’s just the natural order of things. Guys, when single, are easily attracted to others. When you throw in friendship…the basis to any relationship…with an attraction then feelings will inevitably get involved in one way, shape, or form.
If there’s no attraction, then obviously there’s no crush.
I dunno…maybe I’m way off here. I can only give my opinion based upon my own experiences, and I’ve been in that exact situation myself. Heck…I’ve fallen for a friend on more than one occasion, even when I didn’t want to do it.
So what do you think? Am I way off just because of my own personal previous situations? Do you think a single man can be JUST FRIENDS with a woman?
WHAT SAY YOU??