I had emailed Rugrat’s mom last week to try to get a sense of what to get her for Christmas. Rugrat is coming down to visit me over the holidays and I wanted to make sure that I did whatever I could to make her happy.
After getting a couple of suggestions and ideas, I was hit with a bombshell:
“Oh and I am not sure if I mentioned it to you or not but “aunt flow” has arrived for Rugrat…lol!!!!! Be prepared for that visit…and be afraid….be very afraid.”
Okay, so my soon-to-be-11-year-old is already getting ‘visits’. I know it’s physically possible and all, but I really wonder if she’s ready for this type of body development. Hell…am I ready for this??
I’m borderline ready to order something like this just because I have no idea what to expect. I haven’t really gone into much detailed discussion with her mom about what she’s been told yet, but I’m going to assume it hasn’t been very much yet. I mean…she’s only 10.
Then I read this quote from the website:
“Share essential information with your 9-12 year old about her first mentrual period and prepare her for the changes ahead.”
I realize I need to calm down about this. I mean, I’m only going to have her for a week or so. But still…I haven’t the foggiest idea what to do if something happens. I don’t know what to say if she starts asking questions. I’m not sure how to react if her hormones already start raging out of control.
The answer to all this? RESEARCH!!
This is what I found from an AWESOME online article on the subject:
The first few months of menstruation are unpredictable. She may get some bleeding one month for a few days, and then WHO KNOWS when it will come again. The idea, though, is to be prepared (both me AND her).
There can be some pretty scary-looking stuff mixed in there. Blood clots are common and can sometimes be the size of quarters. They can also be very dark and solid, too. It’s important to know this because I don’t need to rush my daughter to the hospital unnecessarily.
To dispose of pads, just roll them up with the glue facing outward…then wrap it up in toilet paper. (Umm…GLUE??)
It’s typical for a teenage girl to have heavy “discharge”…so if I happen to get a “sunny-side up” view of her dirty underwear, I shouldn’t question her hygene habits.
So there it is. These are things a single dad should probably know if their pre-teen daughter starts getting her monthly visits. Believe me…I’m scared. I know it shouldn’t be a big deal, but it’s the next step towards womanhood for my little girl…and I never wanted that day to come, if I can be honest with you.
Is there anything else I should know? What if she asks questions? How can I make her feel more comfortable around me if this should happen?