Yeah…this is a legit question for everybody.
Here was the scenario: Sunshine and I met up with my parents a few weeks back. It was their initial meeting and after dinner they had invited us back both to their house for some casual conversation. Once we entered the living room and sat down, I glanced over at the television and nearly recoiled in horror.
On the shelf directly next to the television was a picture of me and The Ex on our wedding day.
I was absolutely mortified. Thankfully, Sunshine held in any horror or uncomfort until later…and even then brushed it off a bit and my parents just being forgetful.
Then a couple of weeks later my dad wanted to show off his new trailer for camping. They had a beautiful trailer that they sold because it was getting too difficult for mom to go camping and climb in and out (the stairs were too difficult to climb). So they basically just moved everything from one trailer to the next.
As soon as we walked up the stairs and stood in the FIRST ROOM, my jaw hit the floor again as there was now ANOTHER COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PHOTO of The Ex and me from our wedding day.
So after Sunshine was long back at home, I discussed this with both of my parents on separate occasions…just trying to feel out where they were at.
My mom said that she just didn’t even think about it and completely hadn’t thought about removing them in case I had moved on with my life…even though it was over two years after the initial split.
My dad told me that he’d always consider The Ex to be part of the family. I immediately told him that of course she would be…she’s a great person, just not a good fit for me. But he said that he’d move the photo.
Cut to this past Saturday. I took the Ankle Biter with me to visit the folks. He was playing in another room when, after about an hour or so, I heard him say, “Mom!”. I wasn’t sure what was going on. He then proceeded to come get me and take me by the hand and lead me out.
He took me to my parents’ bedroom. He got up on the bed and began to jump up and down (they’ve got a big king-sized bed so it’s fun for him). He then pointed at the wall and said, “Mom!”
Sure enough…they had moved the wedding photo from the living room to their bedroom.
So that brings me to the question: What if you’re separated and/or divorced and have moved on with your life, but your parents HAVEN’T moved on yet?