I almost feel guilty about my post because my dad and I get along great most of the time. Not only that, but after my marriage ended, when he wasn’t lamenting for a miracle reunion (both he AND my mom took almost a year before fulling accepting the break-up), he was incredibly giving and supportive and has continued to help me get back on my feet financially (which, obviously, he likes to remind me of).

I would love to think that therapy is a possibility. But I don’t know that…in his early 60′s…he’d even be open to it.

But you know what? I’ll at least suggest it. It can’t hurt any, right?

Thanks!

Second, we have a lot in common! I’m a 36-year-old single parent, too.

My father and I have had an incredibly tumultuous relationship. We’ve had periods of not speaking. Long periods.

But this saved us: going to therapy together. No kidding. We only had a few sessions, but something shifted. We both wanted to have a real relationship.

He really saw how his words were effecting me, how he’d belittled me.

Let me give you hope: change is possible. I changed, he changed. We are now incredibly good friends. And he’s an incredible grandpa.